I'm sitting here with a candle burning and Bonnie Raitt playing on the record player. It's a still morning. We've had a break in the rain for the past few days, but the air outside feels like there's another storm on the way. I've gone to sleep dreaming of snowy weekends. Friends and I have been lamenting the current state of the country, and exploring new ways to firmly entrench ourselves in resistance. There's so much energy. So much anguish. A lot of love.
The concept of self-care seems to be extra buzzy right now. While I acknowledge the importance of taking time to rest and recenter, the term has become a little irritating, if only from overuse. I like to think of the moments I take for myself, or with Ryan, to be the sweetly and carefully considered finishing touches to our otherwise busy and action-packed days. The finishing touches - like adding the perfect accessory to a tried and true outfit - are what pulls it all together and keeps you coming back for more. There's a lot of joy to be derived from the details. Here are a few of my favs:
While I am trying to live within my means, and stick to a budget, I am someone who regularly splurges on candles. There is nothing that makes me happier than lighting a candle in our clean apartment and letting the warm and spicy scent fill our cozy little space. Lighting one of my favorite candles signifies that it's time to unwind. Something about sage and patchouli and cedar (my favorite combo) transports me back to my childhood in Malibu, but I can tell that the smells are also imprinting themselves in the moment. Years from now I hope the smell of cedar and amber and moss take me back to our little love-filled San Francisco apartment. Do you all have crazy strong associations with fragrances? They are so strongly tied to memory for me - inextricably linked and forever intertwined. It's crazy how much of an impact such a seemingly small home detail can have on my mind and mood. The finishing touches! Favorites are linked below.
I'm sure that most of you at this point know that hats are my jam. I have a relatively small noggin and straight, often volumeless hair, so I use hats to help me balance out proportions. Truth be told I think a good hat brings a certain polish (be it preppy or boho) to any look. Many a day while trying different outfits I'll notice that something feels undone, and then find that a hat is what's needed to pull the look together. My favorites as of late have all been from Janessa Leone (I own Ila and Camellia - both bought on serious sale), and I loved her recent 'fewer things, higher quality' campaign. Janessa's hats are dreamed up and created in California, and I can't wait to get my hands on one of her straw pieces this summer. The sweater below is from Ali Golden.
Ever since I picked up a few copies of Celeste's Oceans postcard calendar, I've delighted in writing handwritten letters to friends, family, and even foes (jk, kinda). It didn't hurt that the first action of the 10 actions/ 100 days campaign was to write postcards to elected officials. Writing to friends and family is such a sweet and often overlooked way to remind the people you love that you're thinking about them. In the days of emoji and meme conversations, I have thoroughly enjoyed taking the time to sit down and write to, and on behalf of the people I care about. It's a finishing touch, or a bit of self-care, that has a rippling effect - I feel good writing them, others feel nice receiving them. Win win.
Unfortunately Celeste's calendar is all sold out, but I encourage you to support an artist in your community and then spread the snail mail love!
That's all for me this week. I hope you all enjoy long weekends!